Defense Mechanism

Few people among us really know what actually they are doing in their daily life in terms of psychology. Psychology is everywhere, in each and every aspect of humans, there exists psychology. We tend to know each other in a better way when we know certain psychologies related to our actions. When we talk about actions, there are certain Defense Mechanisms which are used by us in our daily lives just to get relief from anxiety. These defense mechanisms were first introduced by Sigmund Freud in his psychoanalytic theory. These are basically some tactics which are developed by ego to protect against anxiety. There are some feelings and thoughts that are too difficult for the conscious mind to cope with, so in order to safeguard the mind against those feelings and thoughts, these defense mechanisms are used. But before we go into the detail, its important to mention that every defense mechanism is NOT healthy.

1) Displacement: It involves taking out the frustration, impulses and feelings on other people (spouse, children, servants etc) or objects which poses no threat. The common example of displacement is displaced aggression. For instance you had a bad day at your office, now instead of taking out all that anger and frustration on your boss, you will express your anger towards a person or object that poses no threat. This is an unhealthy defense mechanism and should be avoided.

2) Aim Inhibition: This defense mechanism works on the quote “Something is better than nothing”. In this type of defense mechanism, the person opt or go for a modified form of what they want or what is their goal. For example a student who wanted to be a professional athlete became a high school football coach. This is a healthy defense mechanism and allows you to think out side the box.

3) Sublimation: It is a type of defense mechanism in which a person converts harmful impulses in to socially acceptable behavior. For instance a students who likes to argue a lot joins a debating society. or a persons who fights on small things adopt the profession of mix martial arts. This type of defense mechanism is healthy as well as non healthy, depending on  the person and how he uses it.

Women Suppression in our Society

“WOMAN is not produced from Man’s foot to be stepped on by him;
WOMAN is not produced from Man’s head to be ruled over by him;
BUT WOMAN is produced from Man’s ribs,
under his ARMS to be PROTECTED and NEAR his heart to be LOVED. “

Whatever is happening today is a crystal clear picture of ignorance. We as a society are badly trapped in the grasp of ignorance and regressive convictions. Every dawn brings some episode of disaster for some woman in our society.
The situation in society, especially in the rural areas is again somewhat reminiscent of the dark times before Islam, when there was no justice and women were treated like animals. Newborns were buried alive in those days. Today perhaps women are not being buried under the soil, but they are being buried under the shallow customs and traditions of society, in which women do not have their own existence.If we talk about a humanitarian point of view then we will have to consider our women as human. We must realize that those societies cannot survive very long whose residents are not given equal rights.We will have to take steps for its improvements. We will have to free this bird from the prison that has been created around it, because she is not being given what she deserves….

Post Card

I was given an assignemnt to select a post card from the website “www.postsecret.com” and write about it that what I suppose about the writer and what he want to convey to the readers.  

I selected the 6^th post card from the top and it says “I swear I ‘m an atheist. But when things get rough, I still pray to God”. This sounds a little strange like if a person prays to God when things get rough, then how he can be an atheist. I selected this card because it seems interesting.  In  this secret, writer is talking about two opposite concepts, first that he doesn’t believes on God, second that he pray to God when things get rough. What I can suppose from the information on the card is that writer is deep in himself and he believes in the existence of God.  But he is an atheist too. This reflects that God also lives in the heart of those who don’t believe him, the person can also feel that, like the writer says that he still pray to God when things get rough.  Now the question arises that if he is an atheist then why he pray to God in hard times, well I think that sometimes all of us wish that there would be someone somewhere who could change our circumstances, so he doesn’t actually believes in God, he fanaticize God. Because there are some people who consider fantasy as a reality. The writer hopes to communicate that somewhere, at some point and at certain level, he believes in God. Another thing what I assumed is that the writer is not really sure about his beliefs; he seems confused about being an atheist and on the other hand remembering God in hard times.

Integrity

Being totally honest and and truthful in every part of your life is integrity. It is the main qualtiy of happy and successful life.It is the foundation of character . A person who has integrity also has a pure character in every field of his/her life. Developing character is one of the most important activity one can engage in. So to be honest with others, ine should be completely honest with himself/herself. A person who is consistently living a life with highest values and virtues is a person living a life of integrity. If a person is honest and true with himself/herself, he/she cannot be false to anyone else. People who have high integrity always do the highest quality of work in everything they do. They strive to excellent work on every occassion.  As you include integrity in your life, you will find that every part of your life will improve. As a result you will begin to attract the best people into your life. You will become a successfull and outstanding person in every phase of your life 🙂 🙂

“I am not bound to win, but I am bound to be true. I am not bound to 
succeed, but I am bound to live up to what light I have.” 
― Abraham Lincoln

Good Noun And Strong Verb…

Ummmm what is this??? Good noun and strong verb??? Something grammatical…. well its a quotation which says that “If a noun is good and the verb is strong, you never need an adjective” J Anthony Lukas. 

In this quotation if we consider noun as a Person, verb as his Actions and Deeds, then we clearly come to understand that if the actions of a person are good and worthwhile then you never need to elaborate his actions using certain adjectives as it is said “Person speaks for himself”. This means that the level of a person (good or bad) is enough to explain the actions of a person. No specific adjective required to do so. A person must have strong character and he must act upon good deeds. The goodness and strong deeds combine together to make a good and nice person, when these qualities are there, then no need left behind to explain a person or his actions through some adjectives. A person is responsible for himself, whatever he do, his actions, character, all are in his own hands, world just judge and give opinion and obviously with reference to this quotation, they use adjectives for more explanation. As the quote says, if a person is good and his actions are strong then there is no need left behind to explain that person using adjectives. This quotation also reflects that how much good deeds of person are important for his judgment. We mostly ignore one of the two things i.e. goodness of a person or strong actions, but the reality is that both qualities combine to form a good human being with all aspects. Enjoy a life with strong verb and try to become a good noun 🙂 🙂 🙂

Inferiority Complex

An inferiority complex is a persistent feeling of not being up to the mark or having low qualities than others. Having this complex completely messes your life up and as well as your skills. People have different types of inferiority complexes e.g. being fat or thin, short or tall, physical weaknesses etc. But in reality we are all inferior to other people in some ways and superior in others. The inferiority complex can be overcome by

• Believing that any weakness you have is not actually bad as you think
• Believing that having a certain weakness is not equal with not having any personal quality.
• Believing that all of us have some weaknesses and most people have major weaknesses.

For the extreme cases of this sort of complex, a therapy is given to the subject called CBT (Cognitive Brain Therapy). Basically control is in your own hand, you can also overcome this complex just by thinking positive about your weaknesses and ignoring what others say. Because having any sort of complex in a life make it miserable and even more complex ed.  Enjoy and live your life without complexities and negativity 🙂 🙂

Think Positive!

Always think positive as it solves many problems in one’s life. Positive approach towards issues always leads to some good and fruitful result. Positive people expect success, good health, happiness, wealth and good relationships. This is not because they are already successful or because they are more confident, it is simply the attitude. A positive attitude is  only the first step to get whatever you want in your life. Once you adapt a positive attitude in your life, things become easier to understand. Take your weaknesses in a positive way and use them in your favor. All you have to do is to just THINK POSITIVE and life will be more happier than it was before. Give a try once and enjoy a happy life 🙂

“Positive belief in yourself will give you the energy needed to conquer the world and this belief is the power behind all creation.” ― Stephen Richards

 

Sorry

“SORRY”, just a 5 lettered word, of such an importance. Usage of this word on right time always help to save a relation between two people. But some people make it a problem of ego to say sorry just because of their attitude, they think that their status will be led down if they will say sorry. That is not exactly the reality is. Actually, it creates an atmosphere of peace and care. Use of this word shows that how caring the other person is. Many big issues are solved by just saying Sorry to the opponent party. “Sorry” is actually

S- Some

O- One

R- Really

R- Remembering

Y- You

So the person saying sorry actually means that he/she really wana remember you and keeps care and soft corner for you in his/her heart 🙂

 

Decision making

Self confidence

Self confidence is one of the important qualities one should have in his/her personality. It makes us strong and makes us believe on our strengths and capabilities. Many people feel shy while giving their point of view regarding any issue just because they don’t possess self confidence; even I sometimes lack self confidence. It helps a person to present him/her self in a better way and it gives the opportunity to show what exactly you are. Whatever you do, just do it with confidence, and success will be yours. Don’t care about the world, what will it say or think, just put your best and be confident. . It is said that “The moment you become friends with your inner Self, you realize that the failures or hindrances that you met earlier were caused more by your disconnected status with your inner Being.”  ― Stephen Richards,